In my experience I’ve realised this is one of the most imperative and potent driving forces for each of us to experience life to the fullest and be in the moment.

In the last four years, I went through two of the most challenging and life-altering experiences and it seemed to happen one after another.

I was just recovering from the first event when I was struck very hard by the second. This truly and completely shattered every bit of tenacity I possessed and I could see myself crumble into many pieces.

As I reflect today and watch myself journey through this; I realise the challenge and hardship is still very present but I’ve changed.

I’m going to share the graph of emotions I went through and where I stand today.

The first strong feeling I went through was; I want my life to be perfect again. I was struggling with a lot of questions.

Why did this happen to me?

This can’t be true?

Could I have avoided this?

Why can’t my life be like just normal like thousands of others?

This was a big struggle and I was wrestling with myself and that could be very exhausting.

Also, another big battle was to showcase to the world that it’s all good I’ve managed just fine and everything is good again.

As I carry this burden it’s impossible to move freely and pushing the load seems very tiring and stressful.

As time went along I realised that these two major events have altered my life completely.

I also realised that I can’t compare my life with anyone else and my reality is very different from others.

The penny-drop moment for me was when I realised that the only way to find peace and stay in the present is to accept my reality for what it is and own it; the reason being how much ever I try I can’t change it or alter it.

The real acceptance happens when you can truly own it. To stand up and speak about it with ease and clarity.

To not feel bad or a sense of shame but to own it with pride; the reality is that if one needs to move on and find peace this is the only choice.

This in my opinion can never be forced and one needs to go through each stage to reach the next; the only red flag is that it’s very easy to get stuck and start sinking if we spend too much time in the victim space.

The moment ownership steps in it brings along a powerful beam of clarity on the road ahead.

This clarity leads to some tough decisions and problem-solving; however, the decisions could be very difficult but they are powerful because their origin is from clarity and ownership.

Today I stand here with a feeling of deep peace for the choices I’ve made and live every moment to the fullest.

The daunting situation still remains but for me, there is a big change; I’ve owned and accepted it and made it mine and that has set me free.